What can I say? It's been no fun at all. And yet all horrible things must come to an end. It was a messy relationship; maybe we shouldn't have gotten involved at all. You were violent and volatile, ruled by a tyrannical father. We were idealistic and naive and had been hurt before. But still, we were impulsive; we took the plunge quickly. We were addicted to drama. And you had no choice. You just fell for us.
But oh how quickly things change. You became much too hot to handle. You spurned us almost as soon as you welcomed us. First you threw roses at us, and we thought it meant you loved us. But maybe you just meant, "Please don't kill me." As soon as our honeymoon ended, you turned schizophrenic. You acted like you didn't know from one minute to the next what you wanted or who you were or which mosque you should attend. Sometimes you wanted your mean father back; sometimes you just wanted to blow us up. You turned to outsiders who poured poison in your ear and said lots of nasty untrue things about us and offered to help you get rid of us in horrible ways. You craved our stability and guiding hand and mentoring one moment but hated us for it at the same time. A typical Pygmalion relationship. We should have known, you can't carve the perfect lovers out of stone. You have to let them just be who they are. Even if that means letting them hate you. Or letting them go. We acted like the boss, but we weren't. We couldn't even get you to take out the garbage. You were so passive aggressive you put roadside IEDs in it.
You were insecure. And by that I mean your internal security forces were politicized and mercenary and graft-ridden. You were unstable. And by that I mean you had a nasty case of pyromania. It's never as sexy as Def Leppard makes it out to be. You were proud and had to fight for every inch of property. You wouldn't get organized. When somebody tried to help you get organized, boom! They were dead to you.
You crumbled into many mental and physical states. We binged (on oil) and you purged (each other of heretics). We were very curious to see your dad's guns. Turned out he didn't have any. Later, you did away with your dad entirely, and it wasn't the victory either one of us thought it was going to be. In fact, it just made our relationship that much more sour.
Sometime in the second year, we knew, both of us that, that our relationship was a mistake. Yet we were too proud and embarrassed to end it. We insisted foolishly that we could make it work. Sometimes we went at each other without having enough protection. Isn't that America all over--giddy and never properly sheathed.
But it's silly to ask now what might have happened if we hadn't gotten involved. That was a long time ago, and the choices can't be unmade. We're different people now, and can't live in the past. Our mistakes are ours, and they make us who we are. Hopefully they help us become better. And hopefully we can end this bad blood on good terms, with no mutual recrimination, without debts and without too much rotting infrastructure. You seem to have gotten your shit together a bit. We went into debt trying to make you happy, of course, but we'll be OK, because we work hard and have good government jobs to tide us over.
But we're finally pulling the plug. This is it, Iraq. We're leaving you. We've fallen in love with somebody else and her name is Snooki. She's a mess, too, but we think we can help her. In the meantime, don't cry. We hold no grudges toward you. After all, we have to thank you for not lasting anywhere near as long as our horrible engagement with Vietnam. That was probably the worst relationship ever. So wipe the tears from your eyes, Iraq. In the words of Luther Vandross:
We're so in love but wrong for each other Each hurt that heals brings on another Both of us abusing Both of us using Darling It's time to stop pretending There's just no way to rewrite our ending We're caught in this game And we both know we're losing, but
How many times can we say good-bye?